Published: August 9th 2016, 7:13:39 pm
Something you may not know about me is that I’m sensitive to sounds and light and generally low-radar sensations other people might just overlook. Like right now I’m aware of my dog snoring, the chickens squawking, the clicking of my keyboard, the shadow-dancing of leaves on the windows, hair tickling the back of my neck, my jean shorts riding up, the couch cushions pressing back on my spine, the dryness of my nostrils, and the allergy-irritated puffiness of my eyelids. A lot, right? And there aren’t even other people here with all of their sounds and movements.
My sex tip for you is to sit still for one minute and log all of the sensations you experience knowingly or other. You might not be irritated by them or hyper-aware but by committing to recognize them you’ll realize the plethora of ticks and beats and colors and patterns your system monitors.
Now think about being intimate with yourself or someone else. Trying to experience and express deliberate sensations: heavy breathing, pressure on the skin, lips to lips, synchronicity, strength, coordination, and balance. How much harder do you suppose this intentional sensuality is when your environment is pressing on your subconscious to weed out irrelevant sensations?
Just for today can you silence your phone, put the dogs outside, not run the dishwasher, light candles instead of fluorescents, and be with your intentional sensations rather than your extraneous ones? In the words of Eddie Izzard’s cover of the Being for the Benefit of Mr. Kite, “Just tune in, turn off, drop out, drop in, switch off, switch on, and explode.”