Published: March 8th 2016, 10:35:19 pm
Today I have three things on my mind: 1) the book that I’ve been asked to write, 2) John Green’s latest Vlogbrothers’ episode about Syrian refugees, and 3) a back pain that I’ve never experienced before and hope to be done with soon. All three of these could be really scary if I turned my future-tripping over to fear. The book, if I signed a contract that I couldn’t fulfill. The camps, if we don’t come together as a species and truly, lovingly problem-solve more. And my back, if it doesn’t go away and walking becomes too painful. These three thoughts on my mind could also be really liberating and empowering if I think about what I can change and focus on it with the courage, and wisdom, and experience I have.
For example, I know that many people have written books. Many, many. Just as I know many refugees find shelter, and many backs heal. And I know that these things happen because more than one woman on her laptop makes them happen. I do not have to take on today or tomorrow by myself. Syria is not alone in its hardship. My friend’s hot tub will warm my aching back this evening. We, WE help one another with the challenges big, small, superficial, and life-threatening together.
As I watch the footage of John in a metal cube with mats laid down for the space where a whole family lives, I imagine removing myself from the privilege of writing and the luxury of jacuzzis to be in Jordan teaching the young girls there everything I can, giving them the education they strive for more deeply than electricity and privacy and home. Maybe I will.
For now, the lessons are for you, my incredible supporters. Be with your lives, with your sexualities, in hope and courage. Recognize the hardships that press on your heart and mind then share them with your communities. Whatever you are facing right now will be much less of a burden if you ask others to carry it with you or better yet support you setting it down to concentrate on the gifts you can give the world today.
Ask for help. Be courageous. Stay curious.
~Lindsey
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