Diary of a submissive part 9
Bottom, submissive, slave
What is the difference between bottom, submissive, and slave? First, I must say that all these labels are very subjective and their meanings can vary for different people. The only definitions that really matter are your own, and the person you are in a relationship with. However, there appear to be a certain consensus: one key difference resides in the level of power exchange. Let me offer you my take!
Bottom: the receiving partner in play (sexual activities), the one experiencing sensations given by the "top" person. It usually involves little or no power exchange.
Submissive: the submissive chooses to give control and obey to the dominant. Submissives are owned by their dominant. It involves more power exchange outside of play but the submissive can retain control of some areas.
Slave: slavery is a more extreme form of submission. The slave consents not to consenting. The slave gives away all of his/her power, in every aspect of their life, he/she doesn't get to choose what he/she controls. The goal of the slave is to please and serve the master. "Service" is the performance of tasks for the master, including non-sexual tasks like cooking, cleaning, etc. It is usually 24/7 and more high protocol.
I see myself more like a submissive than a slave because even though I chose to give the control to my husband, it involved a lot of discussion between us and he is often checking what I liked and didn't. We are not into service. I love to please and obey him, but submission is also really satisfying and beneficial for me. My master knows me like no other and is giving me orders to push me towards being the slut that he knows I want to be. I've chosen to trust him 100% because I know he'll make the right decisions for me. He also let me retain control over some parts of my life although giving me directions (my job and finances for example).
Kisses,
Mia
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