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Tales From A Mommy Blog: A Guide to Spankings

Published: March 19th 2023, 9:34:50 pm

It has come to my attention that some Domme Mommies don’t know the proper way to handle a spanking of their subs. It’s understandable, some of you probably thought you were dating/marrying a normal man. You probably had no idea they were hiding that secret little diaper fetish of theirs until they finally got the courage to tell you.

If you’re here, it means you didn’t run for the hills after finding out. I commend you for that. It can be a very jarring thing to find out the person you love also loves to go potty in a pair of Pampers.

But you? You’re patient. You’re understanding. Or, at least, you’re trying to be. You’ll need both if you want to be able to handle an Adult Baby. They can be needy, whiney, and fussy just like a normal baby. Luckily, however, you can treat them a little differently than you would an actual toddler.

As with all my blog posts, I’m going to illustrate my tips and tricks by relating them to my husband, Benny.

For those that don’t know, Benny came to me about 3 years ago with his diaper fetish. I say, “came to me”, but it was more like I found some fishy things on his desktop that he ended up having to come clean about.

So we started doing the diaper-play thing like he wanted. Like most women, I was completely and utterly lost about how to handle it. There are a myriad of photos, videos, and such that I had no idea even existed. But when it came to the little stuff, (no pun intended) I was overwhelmed and still at a loss.

I spent many weeks feeling uncomfortable, self-conscious, and ultimately like I wasn’t doing a good enough job to fulfill my husband’s fantasies. Even though Benny’s little wiener was explicitly telling me otherwise.

Over the years, I have learned many things about caring for an Adult Baby, so why not share them with the world so other Dommies can save time going through the “growing pains”?

Amidst the diaper changes, the feedings, the bathtimes, the bedtimes, and all the other lovely parts of being a Domme Mommy, you’re eventually going to have to administer punishments. So today, we will talk about the most common form of discipline dating back to the Stone Age: spankings.

Not too hard of a concept, right? Just smack their butt and call it a day? That’s what I thought too, but you quickly figure out when dealing with a diapered deviant that there are a lot of miniscule details that are often overlooked. How do you spank them if they have a padded bottom? How many should they get? What implement should you use? And what are the little things you can do to have more of an effect on their overall experience? All of those questions and more will hopefully be answered below!

Now, I'm not going to say I am an expert on the matter of handling an AB, or that my spanking methods are foolproof. I’m simply just another Mommy blogger sharing her insights that she thinks works in between diapers that need changing. So, without further ado, let’s get to it.

When should I spank and when is it warranted?

This is the most obvious question and yet it doesn’t have the most obvious answer. Of course, you want to do it any time you want to correct their behavior. Did they leave a sock on the floor? Did they hesitate even for a second when you told them to take out the trash? Did you find a speck that they missed when dusting or cleaning the toilet they’re not allowed to use?

But after the first few months, you’ll pretty much have them trained. After weeks of getting their bottom tanned, you’ll find that you will never have to repeat yourself again. You won’t have to follow them around to double-check their work, and their little hissy fits will be fewer and farther in between.

If they’re like Benny, they still enjoy a good spanking every now and then, even if they end up crying and kicking their legs by the end of it. You have to remember that most of what they crave is that Dominance and submission aspect of the relationship. They want to feel little and subjugated, it’s often why they were drawn to diapers in the first place.

Sometimes Benny will even purposefully act out just to earn himself a spanking. I don’t always oblige him when he acts like this. Remember, as the Mommies, we are in control. He doesn’t get to decide when he gets his bottom smacked. So when I know Benny is being a brat just so he can get a spanking, I may just put him in timeout or have him do other humiliating tasks that push his limits, but that is for another blog post. Suffice to say, if you deem the behavior punishable–and determine he isn’t just doing it to get what he secretly craves– it’s spanking time.

Some women prefer to do what is called a “maintenance spanking”. This is usually done at the same time every day or week. One Mommy I talked to called them her “Smacks after Snacks'' or “6pm’s before the B.M’s.” Some Mommies choose to do it right before bedtime, that way their hubby is sent to their crib in a fresh diaper and a burning bottom to cry themselves to sleep. Whenever you decide to do it is irrelevant, just make sure it is at the same time of day. The sub will come to expect the routine—and therefore dread it. This helps keep them in their place. A constant reminder that you are in charge. Though it is admittedly quite cruel, so maintenance spankings are  probably reserved for the meanest of Dommes.

Personally, I like to keep Benny on his toes. Walking on eggshells and not knowing what may set me off and earn him a blistered behind. It keeps him in a constant state of angst when he’s waddling around in his diaper, emphasizing that submissive mindset he so desperately desires. Sometimes I don’t need very much of an excuse at all, I will find the most menial thing to chastise him for, like having the slightest bit of wrinkles on his pink satin dress. Another game I like to play with him involves his diaper pail. If he empties it too much, I punish him for wasting bags, but if he waits too long, I punish him for making the house smell with his stinky diapers. It’s impossible for him to figure out where the sweet spot is because even I don’t know where it is. But it’s fun to keep him anxious and on his toes, and it gives me a reason to punish him if I'm feeling particularly dominant that day.

No matter how you go about it, though, when you do decide it’s time for a spanking, there are a couple of things to keep in mind.

Location, Location, Location.

When you do it is just as important as where you do it. With few exceptions.

As tempting as it may be to pull down their pants and diapers right then and there, do NOT spank them where they stand. Anticipation is important, one of the most punishing aspects of a spanking is the build up.

Have a designated area for the ritual. Be it a bench, a corner, a couch, a chair, a bed, or even their changing table. When the inevitable moment arrives, simply say “go to your ‘spanking spot’” and watch their little face plummet in fear.

Some women like to let their sub walk or crawl to the area on their own power, some like to guide them with a hand on their back or padded bottom, others like to be a little more forceful by yanking them by their arm or ear. Whatever you choose, once you get them in their punishment zone, make them sweat it out. Make them wait for what’s to come. Their mind is racing at this point. They’re already reflecting about what they did wrong, and they’re wondering how harsh the sentence will be.

It almost doubles as a little “time out”.  You’re hitting all the same points, they just know there’s not a light at the end of the tunnel.

Reflection

It’s time for them to come face to face with what they’ve done. Gently tell them what they did wrong, or better yet, have them tell you. You can ask them questions like “Do you know why you’re in your ‘spot’ today?” This helps them vocalize what they did wrong. You’d be surprised how high-pitched and squeaky their voice gets at this point. Or, if you like, you can make them use a voice that’s more dainty or lispy.  The best is when you don't even have a real reason to send them there, but they will still start rambling until they find an answer you approve of. Poor little Benny, when I surprise him with a spanking, the wittle guy will come up with every minor mistake under the sun.  I usually pick my favorite one and tell him “yes, that’s obviously why this is happening.”

If you’re performing a Maintenance Spanking, use this time to serve as a reminder for both him and yourself as to who is in charge, and who is a helpless little baby slave.

The next step is to ask them how many swats they think they deserve. Oh to watch their little baby brains scramble to come up with an appropriate number. As a general rule of thumb, if their answer is too low, you may need to double it. If it’s too high, well…they’re about to learn the hard way.

You may have to adjust the numbers based on the implement chosen, which brings us to our next part:

The Options

There are various spanking implements to use for disciplining your little one, each with their own pros and cons. I suggest trying them all out at some point until you find your favorite–or his least favorite.

Paddle - probably one of the most common choices amongst disciplinarians. It has been around for a while because it is tried and true. But with too many smacks, it can turn them black and blue. So keep the numbers down on this one, and use it when you are short on time and need a swift correction.

Cane - when you want to give them sharp, stingy lessons. The thin flexibility of the cane can be fun to use, painful for the recipient, and leaves attractive little lines that remind them of their poor behavior for days to come.

Leather Strap - Benny hates this one. He knows he’s in big trouble when I pull this out. It takes some getting used to to use properly, but once you get the hang of it, it can generate some very loud yelps.

Wooden Spoon - something I recommend all couples start with when beginning impact play. It’s easy to use, gets the job done, and has that sort of regressive effect in taking them back to a time it was maybe used on them by others.

Belt - ‘ole trusty. I like it because it can be used for so much more than just a spanking. You can use it to bind their wrists or ankles, walk them around on a leash, or even a gag. I also like it because when we’re out in public and Benny is misbehaving, all I have to do is give a stern tap on his belt for him to know what’s coming when we get home. The way his little eyes go wide in fear is just priceless.

Hairbrush - My personal favorite. It provides a similar sting of a paddle, but is much easier to wield. It also doesn’t cause as much damage, so it can be used for longer and with more successive hits. Easily my biggest go to.

And let’s not forget:

The Hand. Probably the most commonly used out of any of the implements listed. It’s all natural, organic, and has no sulfates! It can be a sort of double-edged sword, though, as your hand will start to feel the same sting as their backside. However, you can gauge their pain better, and it can be a much more intimate experience due to skin-to-skin contact.

No matter what device you intend to use, I recommend having them fetch it for you (other than your hand, of course, that would be…weird.) Once they implement has been chosen and retrieved, it’s time for the next step!

Undressing

This is a key step that is often overlooked. Telling them to drop their pants serves as the final moment before the big show. You will find that they whine, cry and beg the most at this point. It’s their last ditch effort to save their bottom from destruction.

If they are wearing pants, don’t let them step out of them completely. They should be down to their knees or ankles. Not only is this patronizing and humiliating, it also serves as a loose restraint to keep their legs from spreading or flailing during the procedure.

The biggest hurdle is the diaper. Some decide to leave it on and just smack the back of it. This obviously causes no pain other than to maybe their pride, but those who want the spanking experience without having to deal with the pain may choose to go this route.

For most of us that choose to remove the diaper, I recommend not removing it fully. Simply have them carefully pull it down until their cheeks are exposed, or open the tapes and make them clutch it between their legs. Benny can get quite emotional during a spanking, so I like to remind him that his diaper is right there to catch anything that may leak out in the process. It reminds them of their infancy and gives them a bit of comfort for what’s to come. It also serves as another form of restraint because he will have extra swats added on if the diaper falls to the floor.

If your hubby is being particularly fussy or disobedient, you can use more restrictive restraints. If he is going over your knee, put your thigh over his. You may also need a change in venue. When Benny is being hysterical to the point of annoyance I will bind him face down to either the bed, changing table, or crib. Eventually they learn that the more they protest, the worse it’s going to be for them.

The Process

Now that they’re in their spot, they’ve been scolded, reflective, and gathered the proper implement, it is time.

Some women like to start soft and slowly build up the intensity and frequency. Some keep it constant, and some wane out as the blistering on their bottom increases. No matter what cadence you prefer, use this time to continue to verbally remind them why this is happening, they may forget during all the pain, so having them verbalize it as well will be both profound and entertaining.

I know it’s cliché, but have them count their swats as well. It helps you keep track, and Benny is always so cute trying to count around his penis paci. He sounds so pathetic and lispy at that point, and he knows he has to be careful not to let his binky fall to the floor.

Remember, every spanking for the sake of punishment should end in tears. I know it’s harsh, but that’s the point of a punishment. If they aren’t crying, they haven’t been truly punished yet. It also helps them expose their vulnerabilities. So many men keep their emotions bottled up, clinging to that last shred of pride. They eventually learn it’s better to just let go and maintain the ability to sit the next day. No matter how many they get, though, they will always be thankful for a padded bottom afterwards!

Aftercare

This is by FAR the most important step. It is non-negotiable. If you are going to cause such damage to their backside and their ego, you must do aftercare.

You need to remind them that you only did this because you love them—or because they’re your slave and you need to keep them in line.

If you’d like, you can apply a cream to the area. Anything containing aloe will help to soothe the burn. I like to use diaper rash cream as another demeaning way to regress Benny.

Put them in a fresh diaper, or put the former one back on so they can feel safe again. Put your arms around them, rock them back and forth, shhh and coo them, pat their burning bottom. Consider giving them a fresh bottle to drink, or take the time to breastfeed. I promise you will both feel closer at this moment. Your motherly instincts will grow, and their dependence on you will deepen.

I hope you have found this guide helpful. I plan to cover other topics like Pegging/Anal Play, Chastity and Release, Diaper Changes, and anything else you’d like to learn more about! Thank you all for reading!