Sexual preferences vary widely for each individual, pornography is created for visual stimulation and pushes a lot of boundaries to the extremes and can warp viewers minds into believing what they are seeing must be what women want. When in reality sex is ultimately about how something feels, so if you want to be a good lover the best thing to ask your partner is if what your doing feels good so you can adjust, pressure, speed and positioning. I like butt plugs, but have zero desire to have my fist in there or any large ticket items 🤣🤣