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#ExploringSexualityOver the years, through my journey as a c..

Published: January 18th 2025, 6:56:27 pm

#ExploringSexuality

Over the years, through my journey as a content creator sharing intimacy with my partner and my studies in sexology, I’ve learned that being a great lover isn’t about tricks or performance-it’s about connection, understanding, and curiosity. Here are 7 tips inspired by my experiences to help you become a better lover.

1. Focus on connection, not impressing

Slow down. Pay attention to her breathing, how her body responds to your touch. It’s not about impressing her but about truly understanding what she enjoys and making her feel comfortable.

2. Communicate openly

Don’t assume you already know what she likes. People don't always like the same thing and sometimes we know what we like only if we explore. Simple questions like “What/How do you enjoy?”, “Where should I start?” or "show me how to pleasure you" can make a big difference.
Bonus Tip: Start by exploring erogenous zones on the body beyond the genitals.

3. Build desire outside the bedroom

For many women, desire starts long before sex, especially in long-term relationships. Compliments, small gestures, or doing something special for her can spark that sexual connection.
Bonus Tip: Non-sexual touch works wonders. Hold her hand, caress her back, gentle hug. When touch isn’t always tied to sex, it feels more genuine. This kind of authentic connection can create closeness and is food for sexual desire.

4. Pay attention to how you smell and hygiene

A male perfume is the most powerful aphrodisiac! Most women are very receptive to a good scent! Please, don’t ever underestimate this—ever. Forgetting this? Forbidden. Keep good hygiene, let her notice your effort, and you’re halfway there. I promise!

5. Enjoy the process; don’t rush

The goal isn’t always orgasm. The biggest sexual organ we have is the skin! explore it and don't always focus only on the genitals. Spending time exploring your own and your partner's erogenous zones is a great discovery of pure pleasure!
As I’ve mentioned in another post, not all women need to reach orgasm to feel sexually satisfied. The release of sexual tension can happen in different ways, and satisfaction often comes from the overall experience rather than a specific outcome.

6. Make her pleasure a priority

Many women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Be intentional and show her you care about her experience as much as your own. Always start gently and use lubrication—her vulva is super sensitive. If she doesn’t have a vibrator, you absolutely need to get her one! It’s the kind of gift she won’t easily forget ;)

7. Understand that every woman is unique

What worked for someone else might not work for her, so be curious, attentive, and adaptable. True intimacy often comes from making her feel valued, respected, and safe to express herself. If you are present at the moment, the game is won.


The best lovers are who listen, communicates, innovate, and adapt to their partner. Want to improve? Start by understanding that her pleasure comes -in most cases- from connection, not a perfect performance.

What have you discovered about intimacy that surprised you?

Drop a comment or send me a DM if you’re curious about exploring more topics on sexuality. 😊