You see that she is a woman in her mid-fourties and does not..
Published: October 30th 2021, 6:12:26 pm
You see that she is a woman in her mid-fourties and does not yet have a chiild.
You don’t see them trying in vain with their partner for eight years to p-ee for ovulation tests, that every month when her period comes, she closes the bathroom door and sobbes for hours. Or she lives a full life without a chiild, travels a lot, and is perfectly aware that she doesn’t want to give birth. Or your adoption procedure has been going on for years. Or she had an abortion for the third time in two years.
You see, she's already past her second marriage.
You don’t see him struggling with severe self-esteem disorders, living in abusive relationships, suffering from unprocessed childhood traumas, being abusive by his mother or father, not having a secure attachment model, having post-traumatic stress disorder, and suffering from panic attacks.
You see you are overweight or bony.
You don’t see that you’ve been stigmatized since childhood, you don’t see that you go from doctor to doctor, from diet to diet, from failure to failure. That you starve yourself or keep eating to gain weight. That he spends most of his salary on counseling. You don’t see in the depths of his soul what a wonderful man, a devoted companiion, a loving parent, an irreplaceable friend.
You see, he’s looking good, yet he hasn’t bought a house, a cool car, he could do it to buy expensive stuff, yet he always wears old-fashioned clothes.
You don’t see that your mother is seriously ill and spends all her money on her care. You don’t see that you’re saving or repaying the debt left on it.
You see, it’s easy for him to succeed.
You don’t see it collapse from fatigue to the end of the day. You don’t see the hard work, the sleepless nights. You don’t see him investing his money in his development, he missed the fun of having a period in his life when his wallet was empty.
You see, he’s constantly depressed, nothing good for him. You don’t see him mourning, struggling with mental disorder, being lonely, having a series of tragedies in his life, and no money to go to a psychologist, or not daring to tell anyone about his problem.
You see, you haven’t had a relationship in years.
You don’t see that his heart was broken to pieces last, humiliated, let down. You don’t see him working hard to rebuild his life, you don’t see all his attempts failing. You don’t see that it’s just right for him right now, and he’s at that stage of his life when he’s enjoying solitude.
You see that he is living with some physical disorder. You don’t see how much spiritual strength he has to be able to support others, that he went through hell, while accepting himself, how much effort it means for a simple ordinary thing. That he lives a full life despite all his difficulties.
It’s not just the world you see with your eyes. There is a world below the surface where you can only look through the eyes of your soul. Where empathy, support, love resides. Don't let the surface fool you. No one is as much as you can see from it. Educate yourself on sensitivity, acceptance. Don’t line up, don’t judge just by appearances!